Several years ago, my husband’s ex-wife discovered who I was and what I did. It wasn’t that she was horrified, she wasn’t, she was very familiar with Mistresses having watched several films from The English Mansion when with him.
She wasn’t horrified, or concerned, or worried at all. She was delighted.
Let’s call her Karen. Karen was delighted because Karen decided she wanted her new partner to be the children’s new daddy. David, my husband, was surplus to requirements, and apart from paying child maintenance was just not necessary anymore.
Karen enrolled their son in a new school with consulting his father. Karen prevented us from collecting the children from school on our court-appointed days. Karen stopped the children from Facetiming with their dad. Karen allowed her new partner to subject the children to emotional abuse by not preventing him from calling their father abusive names.
Karen had already spat a few cryptic sentences at my husband, which made him wonder if she knew something, but that only became clear after the events that followed.
After a visit from the children, and upon hearing their upset and anger at hearing this abuse, a foul-mouthed, much older man, we consulted with our solicitor. David’s solicitor wrote to Karen to advise her that she had a choice, either prevent this emotional abuse or ask her partner to leave the family home.
That is when the shit hit the fan. Big time.
The first thing Karen did, after rubbing her eyes with raw onion was to call David’s father, a bigot extraordinaire who was racist, sexist, and homophobic. A man who cheated on David’s mother with various women, sometimes singularly, sometimes simultaneously, but fancied himself as a moral guardian and all round know it all. Karen knew exactly what she was letting off.
“Oh! Oh! What about my children, are they safe around her!? Oh! Oh!”
The resulting explosion was betrayal, estrangement, a re-writing of his will and having to deal with solicitors and ultimately the family court. David and I were likened to Fred and Rose West.
David was ‘a monster’. I was ‘a paedophile who was brainwashing David so I could groom the children’.
The bigot’s wife called David’s mother (yes, the woman whose husband she had an affair with) to warn her it ‘was only a matter of time before the children would appear in my perverted films’.
That was several years ago.
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